He tells you he loves you and you’re the only one
How all the girls are having sex and it’s fun
You believe him and give in to temptation at will
Now everyone knows and that makes you ill
Broken promises and heartbreak after sex too soon
Abstinence is the goal, don’t let peer pressure fool you
Your body is a temple, treat it with care
Every girl isn’t having sex, let’s make that clear
Education and goals are the key
Once an adult and married, enjoy your husband blissfully
What About Me?
There is a time and place for everything, this is an old adage; but it is no less true at this moment.
The most sage advice, I can give you, at this moment, is to stay connected to all things, but be attached to nothing. This may have you scratching your head, but be patient…I will never lead you astray.
You love deeply, without question. However you may need to have a heart to heart with yourself…every single day. Every day you should ask yourself, am I doing this for “them” (whoever “them” is) or are you doing it for self. Be careful, because I need you to be brutally honest with yourself.
Sometimes, even when we are doing things for other people…we are really only doing it for ourselves. Let me give you an example, just so you won’t think I have lost it.
You can have someone that you are very close to, and you may give that person something (monetary or not); now when you tell this story to others, you are brought to tears…and you very well maybe shedding tears, on behalf of the situation that your loved one is facing. However, if you did it strictly for them, why would you feel the need to share it with anyone else? In fact, if you do something for another person…once it is done…you should let it go. All too often, when we even hold onto stories where we have helped another person or group of persons, all that we really do is keep a running tab, of who did more for whom. This is a most unkind behavior.
If we are truly doing things for the sake of another’s well being; there should be no reason why we would need to keep track.
Be connected to all…persons, places and things…yet attached to nothing. You are not your actions. In all that you do, you must be able to picture your Creator…standing beside you. Think for a moment, in the time when the world was being created…was there room for ego? The ego can be a powerful tool, and there are times when it can be used to help others; but understand that when our ego is being used to make us feel bigger and better than anyone else…it is working against creation.
Look at all situations from above, do not allow your own personal feelings or ideas about how the outcome will affect you, alter the way you conduct yourself. Think about all situations, as if you have nothing to lose or gain. It is sad that this even needs to be said, but unfortunately, the very first person, that typically comes to mind, in any given circumstance…is self.
You must learn how to put other people ahead of you, in this regard. You must want more for others than you want for yourself. You know what you would like to have for yourself…want more for everyone else. If you want $100 then you MUST want $500 for them. This is truly caring for another person.
We must step aside from the “let me break you off a little something” mentality. Stop breaking off fractions of what it is that you have; if you truly want to give…give it all away. I know this may feel like I am trying to steal your oxygen, but please listen. The greatest Saints in history, never thought of self. Mother Theresa of Calcutta, gave her entire fortune away, and lived alongside the people who were truly struggling. She did not do this to get world fame, but to learn humility. She gave her entire fortune to the needy and less fortunate; yet she never appeared to look like she was doing without. In fact, when asked why she smiles everyday…she said because I find Jesus everywhere. What she learned, that most of us struggle with is the fact that you can find your Creators fingerprints on each and every thing…how can that be anything less than perfection?
This part may hurt a little, because now I have to tell you…you are not the most important person in the world. We have been taught so many lies…that we now believe they are the truth. As women, we have been led astray, by other women. That, holier than thou mentality must end…let it end with you. You are a bright and beautiful being…you are definitely that, but if you wear that idea like a tiara…it can become a crown of thorns.
When does beauty fail to be beautiful? When it is used to degrade another living thing. For instance, oh I love her hair; I mean it isn’t as bouncy as mine is, but it still looks good.
Do you see what just happened? You took something that was never about you at all…and you made it all about you. How can a person feel good about themselves, after hearing a statement like that?
This life is not a matrix, nothing is that complicated; but you do have to lay down the idea that you come first. Living life out oud does not mean to be the most boisterous. It means to walk amongst all of creation, knowing that we all have a divine purpose and your purpose may very well be…to just be kind. That doesn’t mean to be kind when you are having a good day or when you get that raise at work. It means above all else, put others first. This also doesn’t mean to play the “Have a blessed day” card.
Do not misinterpret what I am saying to you. We should hope that every one has a blessed day, in fact if they are breathing…in fact- they are being blessed. You know exactly what I am referring to. The tone in which you are speaking, the one that says “You don’t matter to me and my world”…that “Have a blessed day” card. Understand that your job here, is to love everyone. It seems so simple, doesn’t it? Who couldn’t love everyone?
Well, that means that you have to find the most trying of people…loveable.
You have to be able to look at the homeless man urinating on the street, just as loveable as the newborn baby. It means that you have to love, even the man that walked into your place of business- with the intention of robbing you. You have to find a way to find yourself in each and every one. You may think that the woman showing her ass on facebook is nothing like you…after all, you would never post half naked pictures. What if I told you that like you…she lives with grief that time is still trying to heal? What if the attention she is seeking is just so she won’t have to think about the memories she can no longer make with that person…can you really see who she is now?
Life is full of opportunities, don’t miss them, just because they come wrapped in a ribbon that makes you feel negative. This is a lesson that will be hard for most people to learn, after all we do have our preferences. However, life isn’t about you. You did not create it…it created you. You must humble yourself and know that all that you should have…you will have.
Stop walking past the very gifts that this world has to give you; simply because you are looking for something that you find more attractive or suitable.
I will leave you with one final thought today, you do not need to clear your head…you instead…must clear your heart
In my silent time today
Where I talk with my Source
I asked are we all loved
The response was yes, of course
Then I pondered for a moment
If that is truly the case
When did we create the lie
When did we fall off base
When did we decide that we
Could treat another so bad
What gives us the authority
To make others feel so sad
Why must we tear apart
The hopes and dreams others create
That…I heard intently
Is a lifelong debate
Mankind did not seek permission
From any higher power when
He decided to enslave and maim
Starting way back then
No one sought enlightenment
When evil came to mind
For that wrong which was done
Does not begin from the divine
For to hold back or desecrate
A man or group of the like
Is similar to searching for sunrise
But only during the night
It’s as backwards as
Placing horse behind a cart
Like playing make believe
With a most fragile heart
The problem worsens said my Source
When we make no moves to the latter
When my children have forgotten
All that really does matter
Like a smile out of nowhere
Rain making plants grow
Loving our fellow man
Allowing that love to show
We can hardly see the light
When the homeless are blamed
For our inability to reach out
Like Creation’s going insane
But if we do not wake up soon
The world will continue to create
The problems it has bred
Just more evil choices we’ll make
Learn to love immediately
For the seed of God runs deep
And the cost of sin is higher
Than any grudge we keep
Reach out for one another
Remember it may be only one hand
But like the great earthly beaches
It all started with a grain of sand
Create a chain of understanding
A tie that binds from your core
Show the love of your ancestors
And that of theirs before
So in your moments of silence
When our Creator touches you deep
Remember it’s not what you say
But the promises you should keep
You and I fuss and fight constantly
And it’s draining all of my energy
Our relationship use to have so much stability
Fearful of this emotional roller coaster and where it’s taking me
To dark places I’ve never been before
Like when your hands were wrapped around my neck
My world became black and death was near my door
Blood vessels broken in both eyes
No apology…had me at the ER lying
To my family, friends, and staff
I should be ashamed of myself…defending your secrets
Of violent tantrums you always take out of me
I’ve had enough of this pain being inflicted on me
It’s time to stop you once and for all
DO YOU UNDERSTAND ME?!!!
Even if I remain a prisoner surrounded by four walls
To all the beautiful people
Remember that today is tomorrows memory
Remember that even the darkness needs the LIGHT to exist
Remember that once someone had to be patient with you
That love is not a thing u do…but WHO u are…
Remember that instead of seeking that perfect mate
Be that PERFECT YOU
Everything and everyone is not for you…
And that is okay
Love with your whole heart
You will never be disappointed
Love never fails…
Failure is an illusion
You have already won
The only war that you are fighting is against yourself
Remember that our Creator would not create you…
With the intention for you to lose
But I will remind you that when we see negative things in others
It is only because we see them in ourselves
People are a mere reflection of how u really see yourself
There will be those who will constantly test you…
It will only make you better
Understand that the light which shines on your face…
With all its warmth and love
Actually came from inside yourself
And always…in all ways KNOW
YOU ARE LOVE…
And I appreciate you all…
Love is a verb…people tend to forget
Quickly to speak it…not meaning it
Not realizing how it will affect
The other person…playing on their emotions
And once the façade is revealed, the heart is broken
The tears are overflowing and one blames themselves
The heart is no longer in despair…anger takes over
Followed by rage and vengeance
The mind has lost its stability
To comprehend the actions that lies ahead
And physically hurt the liar for their pain
It’s too late…the damage is done
The broken hearted is no longer the victim
But is labeled as legally insane
Detained from the ones who truly love them
Because of three powerful words
That people always use in vain
I LOVE YOU!!!!
If you think peer pressure only exits in teens, you’re wrong
Being an adult in this fucked up world can be cold
A black woman, who’s constantly criticized by her black king
If it isn’t her kinky hair, full figure, or because she doesn’t get nasty in the sheets
Constantly being put on the back burner for other races
Once he’s moved up in the world to high places
So we constantly try to fit in with European standards
From hair weaves, relaxers, and coloring our hair
Bleaching our skin, pounds of makeup, and cosmetic surgery
Once that has been achieved you still continue to throw dirt on me
Damn, that’s too much work for me
So I will continue self-love and my king will find me
I embrace my melanin skin and kinky hair
My full lips, curvy hips, and round derriere
No peer pressure exists when you know your worth
You don’t have to devalue your real existence to be in his world
So love yourself and embrace your black beauty
You’re a black queen, never forget you are a rare commodity
Some days are good and some days are bad
As I reflect on the time spent living in the past
Being bitter, angry, unforgiving, and miserable
I end up hurting the people around me whom intentions are genuine
Do they deserve my wrath of anger I give them
And once I’ve realize my wrongdoings, I beg for forgiveness
Quinniece, darling, what could make you be this way?
You are an intelligent and beautiful lady what more can I say
As I look into the mirror to my surprise
Standing before me was a woman who has lost her stride
NO MORE as I shouted and broke the mirror into pieces
My past will not become my future and get the best of me
Dusting myself off as I pray to God above
God please enter my heart and fill it again with love
Joy, Forgiveness, Happiness, and Care
And let the beautiful, strong woman within come and declare….her VICTORY!
Do All Lives Matter?
We keep saying that they do
And some may take this as a retaliation
For the negativity received from the Black lives matter campaign…
But honestly lets think about this…
Do ALL lives matter?
Does a pedophile matter?
Does a murderer matter?
Does a Muslim matter?
Does an Atheist matter?
If you are gay …do you matter?
If you are transgender…?
So while it may pump up people
And make them feel like they are a part of something
Something larger than themselves…
If all of the above DON’T Matter…
Then both campaigns are destined to fail..
Until we love all people…
Even the most unsavory amongst us…
Every one of us
We only had one job to do…
And that job is not to murder people and call it police work
It is not to berate or demean other people who don;t look like us
It is not to hate or develop apathy…
It is to love and support one another…
What is more important than smearing a hate campaign?